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Tuesday, October 3, 2023
St Mary's Church
1300 Northern Blvd.
Manhasset, New York, United States
Tuesday
3
October
Interment
11:45 am - 12:00 pm
Tuesday, October 3, 2023
Nassau Knolls Cemetery
500 Pt. Washington Blvd.
Pt. Washington, New York, United States
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Lynn Levins uploaded photo(s)
Monday, October 30, 2023
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Jim. I just learned of Marilyn’s passing and was so saddened by the news. What a kind soul she was. My thoughts and prayers were especially with you this past weekend as I lit a candle for you at the Annual mass at BC.
Lynn Levins(BC ‘83)
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Noelle D'Aversa lit a candle
Thursday, October 12, 2023
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Sending all of our condolences. We will miss Marilyn, she was always so welcoming and we enjoyed seeing her in Vermont in the winters. Love, the D’Aversa girls.
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Michael Brennan posted a condolence
Thursday, October 5, 2023
Jim: I haven't seen you or Marilyn since BC, but I was saddened to hear this. From the time I first met Marilyn on South Street as freshmen, to the time we graduated, I always enjoyed being around her. I read your eulogy, and it sounds like she never changed. Cherish your memories, and take comfort in knowing that she touched so many people, and they remember her fondly for who she was. Cheers- Michael Brennan (BC, '83)
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Melissa Daly Norrgard lit a candle
Thursday, October 5, 2023
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Dear Jim - sending my deepest condolences on Marilyn’s passing. A fellow BC classmate taken much too young. I hope you and the kids find comfort as you keep her legacy and spirit alive each day. - Melissa Daly Norrgard
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Suzanne Mills posted a condolence
Wednesday, October 4, 2023
I am so sad by this news. Marilyn was a wonderful person. Kind. When I was grieving the loss of my Dad a few years back, she shared her own grief with me about the loss of her Dad. It helped me so much. That was the kind of person Marilyn was. I will miss her very much. Jim, you and Matt and Meg are in my prayers.
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Jim Herschlein posted a condolence
Wednesday, October 4, 2023
My eulogy of Marilyn:
Marilyn enjoyed going to Costco.
There were many weekends when Marilyn and I, after watching various news programs, decided we would head over to Costco. It is not that we needed anything in particular or, quite frankly, needed anything at all. No, we would go to Costco and very diligently walk up and down each aisle looking at the merchandise and at the other shoppers but, mostly, spending time with each other. We would chuckle at me finding the latest thing that I never knew that I needed -- with Marilyn doing her best to persuade me not to waste money on yet another item that would soon sit unused in our garage.
Many of you knew Marilyn from various of her activities. You knew that
Marilyn enjoyed golf
Marilyn enjoyed skiing
Marilyn enjoyed boating
And Marilyn even enjoyed rugby and rugby tours.
But those were all acquired tastes for Marilyn -- she did not grow up with those activities.
Marilyn was born in February 1961 in Boston and lived with her parents Jack and Marilyn in Watertown Massachusetts through her college years. In grammar school and high school, Marilyn was very active as a cheerleader, a star volleyball player, and a school leader. And homecoming queen, I might add. She went to Boston College, graduating in 1983, and that's where we met in the fall of 1980. We started dating in December 1980, were married on October 12, 1986, and we were blessed with our two children, Matthew and Megan.
Marilyn was very successful as a network supervisor at the advertising agency BBDO but, after our children were born, she knew what was most important to her. I recall vividly that day in 1994 when Marilyn told me she was going to resign from her job because being the Mother that she wanted to be required her to be a Mom 100% of the time. I was surprised because Marilyn had already achieved much success in the workplace, but it turned out to be the correct decision for our family.
This was just one example of Marilyn sacrificing herself for others. Every day, her family came first. Many of you know the thousands of hours Marilyn spent at hockey rinks and volleyball tournaments -- and yes, rugby fields -- supporting our children and me.
Marilyn’s selflessness extended beyond our family. She was friends with so many people, and always made time for them. Marilyn quickly welcomed new people into our world and made them feel like old friends. We often hosted friends, or our children’s friends, or my colleagues or co-workers. Through those meetings, Marilyn spent time with so many people -- and always she listened to them, got to know them, and offered comfort or advice where needed. It is truly remarkable how many people have told me that they consider Marilyn as their closest friend -- or their “second Mom.”
Marilyn showed her selflessness again several times in the last weeks of her life. While in the hospital for three weeks, Marilyn often told the children and me not to miss activities or events “just because” she was in the hospital. And then, after she made the difficult decision to leave the hospital and go into hospice, literally the first thing that Marilyn said to me was: “When we get home, we are going to have a big wake with me being there.”
And that we did, for nearly ten days. Through that process, Marilyn showed incredible strength and gave so many people the gift of being able to visit and say goodbye. Again, Marilyn was putting others before herself, even at literally the most difficult moments of her life.
Being with her friends and loved ones, that was always so important.
I mentioned how Marilyn enjoyed golf and skiing and rugby. Well, I think the truth about that is rather simple:
Those activities were all fine in Marilyn’s book, but it could have been almost anything. . . .
If her friends and loved ones wanted to do a particular activity, Marilyn wanted to be there to support them and to spend time with them. No matter that Marilyn may not be so keen on the activity; she would sacrifice so that others could do what they wanted, and Marilyn would wholeheartedly join right in. And embrace all those with whom she came into contact.
Before I close, I want to take a moment to thank the many people who have looked out for Marilyn, and for me and our family, over this past year. Every week, a pile of food would show up in our refrigerator; so many times, a friend would go to our house to let in a contractor or accept a delivery. And so much more. I know that so many of you expressed our love for Marilyn by helping us, and I am truly humbled at the depth of the support that we received. Thank you.
At the back of the mass booklet is a beautiful poem that states that one is never gone if we think of her. I do believe that, and I will hold Marilyn in my heart and in my thoughts forever. In the days to come, I hope that you also pause to think of Marilyn; perhaps on your visits to Costco, because Marilyn really did like to go there.
Marilyn, I love you and I so look forward to being with you again.
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Tom Kehoe Posted Oct 4, 2023 at 10:45 PM
Jim,
Your eulogy to Marilyn is beautiful. I am truly so sorry for your loss. As a relatively new husband and father I pray my wife and I are able to enjoy the wonderful years together that you and Marilyn did raising your kids and being a family. The Kehoes send our prayers and condolences to you and your children. Sincerely, Tom Kehoe, Jr.
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Carol Watters Posted Oct 5, 2023 at 1:55 PM
I never had the pleasure of meeting Marilyn but saw how much you both loved life on Facebook such a beautiful tribute to her Jim you and your children are in my thoughts and prayers
Carol Watters
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Joan Mahon Posted Oct 10, 2023 at 10:02 PM
Jim, thank you for sharing your reflection. The part about Marilyn being a “best friend and second mom” rings true for our family. We promise to think about her all the time and keep her beautiful spirit with us. Holding you, Megan and Matt in our hearts ♥️
Joan, Larry & Michaela
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Wednesday, October 4, 2023
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We have known each other since our husbands worked together starting their careers . We started our oldest children skiing when they were so little. We rekindled our friendship when you got your beautiful place at okemo which you worked hard to make so beautiful for your family. Even though it felt like we were just winter friends, we would just pickup where we left off, like we saw each other yesterday. You were an amazing selfless person who raised two amazing children. I will miss you dearly as well as my family. Love always, Lisa D’Aversa and family
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jeff steinman lit a candle
Wednesday, October 4, 2023
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I never got to meet Marilyn but could tell she was a wonderful person and a great joy to Jim and all the family.
My deepest condolences and love!
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Eileen Joyce lit a candle
Tuesday, October 3, 2023
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William McGrorty posted a condolence
Tuesday, October 3, 2023
Jim and family - so sorry for your loss.
William McGrorty - Bayville NY
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Barbara & Dennis McNamara lit a candle
Monday, October 2, 2023
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Kathleen Daly posted a condolence
Monday, October 2, 2023
Marilyn was a dedicated wife & mother, who always put the needs of other's before her own. She was loved by many and will be missed by all.
RIP Sweet Angel...............
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Joan posted a condolence
Monday, October 2, 2023
To my loving, wonderful, strong and caring daughter in law Marilyn. I will always cherish our times together. Our holidays, birthdays, dinners, Vermont, graduation trips for Matt and Megan and all our great memories. I couldn’t have had a better daughter in law for my son James Daniel. I miss you already!
“God saw you getting tired and a cure was not to be.
So he put his arms around you and whispered “Come to me.”
Love forever,
Mom Joan
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Veronica Ciccone posted a condolence
Saturday, September 30, 2023
Lyn and I had a very close yet far away friendship. We were friends and we were family. I will miss her very much. I leaned on her a lot. She knows why. She was a class act !! They don’t make many like her. I’m blessed to have known her. I truly will miss her in many ways and I will truly feel her absence. I know she will send me guidance from above and will always have my back no matter what. This loss is profound no matter who you are. May the kisses of Angels guide her family through this loss and may God be ever present during these most difficult of times ! Love you and will miss you very much Lyn. ❤️❤️
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Jeffrey pallotta posted a condolence
Saturday, September 30, 2023
We grew up across the street from the family in Watertown. Jack the father was a great guy always helped. And I remember teddy the big German shepherd. I’m sorry for the family’s loss . John Tommy Susan and marylin . Great Watertown family.
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James Mercante posted a condolence
Friday, September 29, 2023
Jim
Your wonderful memories together like the rising sun and ocean waves on the shore will last forever I pray that each new sunrise brings you a warm feeling and bright memories.
All the best
Jim Mercante
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The family of Marilyn Herschlein uploaded a photo
Thursday, September 28, 2023
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